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Erotic Sensory Assessment
This is an exploratory tool that is informed by modern sensory profiling tools. Dr. Winnie Dunn and Tina Champagne developed the original frameworks and this Erotic Sensory Assessment integrates aspects of their work into the erotic experience. Their work helps us understand how sensory processing shapes safety, regulation, overwhelm, underwhelm, and connection, all essential ingredients…
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Tradwives: The Conservative Kinksters -Wedding Rings vs Collars
This article provocatively and facetiously argues that tradwife culture is kinky. When compared with 24/7 (24 hours a day, 7 days a week) female-slave/male-master (FS/MM) dynamics, they are strikingly alike. While politically and ideologically distinct, both share the cornerstones of power and control. These are the foundations of Bondage/Discipline/Dominance/Submission/Sadomasochism/Masochism (BDSM), positioning tradwives well within the…
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ADHD & Sex: In the Bedroom, Playing with the Desire Spectrum
Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) can shape how a person experiences sex, particularly when it comes to high or low levels of sexual desire, which is sometimes referred to as hypersexuality and hyposexuality. Traditionally, these experiences were framed through a pathologising lens. By applying a neurodivergent lens, this blog explores how stress, daily functioning, and…
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Check me out:
Wanna read my resume? Who am I and what experience do I have? Whats my professional background? Whats my training and academic history? Am I a good fit for you? What have I got to offer? I have 20 plus years as a professional under my belt, working across many human services fields and organisations…
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A Pleasure Guide
Cultivating Pleasure In Your Relationship Our mainstream culture is fast paced & outcome focused. Due to this we often feel overwhelmed, rushed, tried, & disconnected, unable to access our pleasure. We can change this by prioritising & exploring the vast range of erotic, pleasurable & connective experiences in our world. It’s about setting intention &…
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An Ode To The People Pleasers
Where the fuck is my ‘no’? Did I lose my ‘no’ to the angry lover – too scared to evoke a rage? Did I lose it to the pleading friend who wouldn’t take no for an answer? Did I trade my needs for feeling wanted, worthy and adored, or was it a secret fear of…
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The Liberation of Unlearning – Celebrating the Soft Cock
Sometimes what we are taught enslaves us, cripples us, makes us think we are unworthy. This is true on so many topics in the sexuality field. Particularly so in relation to the collective response to a soft cock. A soft cock is often seen as broken. A soft cock is often rejected by the owner…
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I’m an ex street kid…
… cult hippy child, teen mum, soaked in violence to young, been there done that kinda styles, complex trauma survivor = ex drug dabbler = lucky to not be an addict acknowledger, word maker-up-er-a, long term activist, visionary, entrepreneur, a system disrupter. I’m an off the track adventure seeker, a fungi fanatic, lover of books,…
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Luscious Lips
Lick them, bite them, nibble them, suck them, love them, adore them, wet them, run your finger so softly over them it almost feels as though there is no contact, flicker your eye lashes on them, tease them with a sweet moist strawberry, put honey on them and lick it off, whisper to them, feel…
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The Mystery of The Missing Clitoris
There was a dark period in history when the clitoris went completely missing. In the 1948 edition of Greys Anatomy (‘the doctors bible’ the worlds leading scientific anatomical text book) removed their incomplete button version of the clitoris siting social hygiene and morality. The clitoris made an incomplete come back in future editions but something…
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MAIRE JOY – BSocSc