Sometimes what we are taught enslaves us, cripples us, makes us think we are unworthy. This is true on so many topics in the sexuality field.

Particularly so in relation to the collective response to a soft cock.

A soft cock is often seen as broken.

A soft cock is often rejected by the owner and the lover.

A ‘soft cock’ is even used as an insult.

What if those who have, and those utilise penises all started to expect the presence of soft cock and still have full body fun and experiential pleasures regardless? What if there was no shame in a soft cock? What if we all accepted the fact that for a lot of penis owners, this is a part of their cock existence?

There are many reasons why somebody might not be able to get or maintain an erect peni$: medical issues (diabetes, nerves, blood flow), stress & lifestyle, phycological issues & trauma, age related, substance overuse….

In my work, what I’ve seen again and again is that by unlearning the shame around this topic and relearning pleasure for everybody involved regardless of erection status, is liberation, hope and rejuvenation in relationships, and the growth of compassion for self and others.

What are we unlearning?

Porn culture, productivity/capitalism culture, the only sex is a penis in vagina myth, toxic masculinity, ageism culture – respect your elders, differing abilities are not ok, vulnerability is not ok……..

Penis facts:

A penis can feel pleasure at all different erection levels

A soft cock massage is a great way to experience pleasure

The penis is only one of the many erotic zones in the body.

Testosterone levels decline rapidly with age which impacts virility.

A penis can reduce in sensation with age

Ejaculation can happen without erection

Ejaculation can happen without orgasm

Orgasm can happen without ejaculation

Pleasure, intimacy and fun can happen without an erection.

Want someone to walk you through this liberating unlearning and rediscovery process? I’m here for that.