Supporting the expansion of pleasure, body awareness & effective communication. For individuals, couples & groups

Work with me

Are you seeking a more fulfilling sex life? Is it time to prioritise and reinvigorate your relationship? Do you need support to overcome sexual issues & concerns? Do you want to get to know and understand your body better & gain more confidence when giving or receiving pleasure?

I support people to live a more deeply connected and pleasurable life through a range of therapeutic, educational and coaching services. All gender expressions, sexual orientations and relationship styles welcome.

Relationship & Sex Therapy

Supporting individuals and couples to live a deeply connected and sexually fulfilling life.

It’s easy to fall into unhelpful, unhealthy and unsatisfying ways of living. Let’s rewrite the script and get you on track – connected with your desires and fully accessing your pleasure potential.

Therapy exists to support internal dialog shifts and behavioural change. I use clinical approaches to gain insights and understandings, then draw on a variety of counselling, educational and coaching modalities to best suit your needs. I support the reset of thinking and behaviours, create deeper connection and understanding, challenge limiting beliefs to better align people and couples with the sex life they want to be having.

Available online or in person (West Auckland)

  • 55 min sessions $220

Reduced rates available under special circumstances eg. unemployment/low employment, health crisis, disability, trans support, BIPOC ….. please reach out.

Sex and pleasure coaching

Teaching the body how to access and experience more pleasure. This is an educational modality and supports people to better access pleasure in their bodies. I have a range of tools to support your change process including but not limited to: somatic exercises and expansion, anatomy and arousal education, breath work, up regulation and down regulation techniques, embodied consent, building neurological pathways around understanding what your body is wanting and asking for, breaking down the cone of silence, awakening the body, support to overcome sexual difficulties and concerns …….

Available online or in person (West Auckland)

  • 1 x 90min session $250
  • 3 x 90min sessions $600
  • 5 x 90min sessions $900

Reduced rates available under special circumstances eg. unemployment/low employment, health crisis, disability, trans support, BIPOC ….. please reach out.

Sexologist For Events

Everybody loves to talk about sex! Want to spice up a group event with a sexologist on hand to ask all those burning questions, have a sex toy demo, learn some sexy new tricks? Hens Dos, Sex Toy Shopping Assistant, Dinner Party Guest – I got you. Group bookings – 2 hours $70 per head, minimum 7 people – Auckland area in person or zoom. Also available to run custom workshops at festivals or events, available for public talks and podcasts etc.

About Me

I have over 20 years of extensive experience and academic achievements to offer you. Experience counselling in sexuality, relationships, domestic violence, behaviour change, mental health and trauma. Working with LGBTQI+ communities including counselling for trans and gender questioning folks. Writing and delivering educational programs around healthy relationships, sexual health and pleasure education in schools, festival settings, night clubs and private functions.

My therapeutic, educational and coaching work is informed from a mix of modalities including: Neurosciences, Somatic Therapy, Narrative Therapy, Trauma Informed, Wheel of Consent Practices, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy.

I identify as a neurodivergent, she/her, queer takatapui, Māori – Ngai Tahu x pakeha.

Academic Achievements

Southern Cross University 2011

Bachelor of Social Sciences

Majoring in Counselling

Institute of Somatic Sexology 2023

Certificate in Sexological Bodywork

Professional Developments & Trainings 2003 – 2023

  • Integrative Sex and Couples Certification Training – Tammy Nelson PESI – currently studying.
  • Like a Pro – Wheel Of Consent for Professionals – 5 day intensive- Betty Martin
  • Deep Dive -Sexual Attitudes Reassessment and Restructuring (SAR) Gold Coast Sexology
  • Desire Discrepancy: Libido & Sexual Expectations – Tanya Koens
  • Beyond Sex Addiction: A Compassionate Model For Treating Out of Control Sexual Behaviours – Mind Body Training Institute
  • Adult transgender patient care – Good Fellow Unit
  • Advanced Narrative Therapy – Centre for Community Welfare Training
  • Narrative Therapy Dulwich Centre – 1wk Intensive Training L1
  • Fighting Fair – Mediation and Conflict resolution training
  • Understanding & Responding to Young Peoples Sexual Behaviours
  • Trauma Informed Care and Practice – An Indigenous Approach – We Al-Li
  • Beyond Developmental Trauma – Sal Consulting
  • Trauma Informed Practice – in the Specialist Homelessness Sector – ASCA – Adults Surviving Child Abuse
  • White Ribbon – Understanding Men’s Violence Against Women
  • Men’s Resource Centre, Working with People to End Violence and Abuse, part one.
  • Domestic Violence Alert Response Training
  • NSW Domestic Violence Core Training
  • Recognise and respond appropriately to D&FV – Lifeline
  • Boundaries Core Issues – conducted by ‘Women Up North’
  • Tracks from the Past – Aboriginal Attachment and Bonding Awareness Day
  • Mental Health Assessment of Aboriginal Clients – Indigenous Psychological Services
  • Dadirri: Ancient Aboriginal Mindfulness Traditions – We Al-Li
  • Designing and Managing Community Based Projects
  • Cert 4 in Youth Work – Lismore TAFE